Occasionally there are times when even seasoned role-models find themselves in the predicament where
what they really need is someone to help them make sense of their experiences and the fallout of the resulting (often very complex) emotions.
In the primary education system, children receive collective oversight from caretakers who are available to track and monitor their self regulation, social, and emotional literacy skills.
Children who display at-risk behaviors are provided free access to adults who are trained in crisis intervention, how to distinguish between cultural, special needs, emotional literacy indicators, and risk prevention strategies.
These mentors provide individualized education plan (or IEP) to provide students with access to the language to help them make sense of what they feel so that they can then identify which coping skills will help them attain the outcomes they will need to rebound when they encounter adverse experiences.
These interventions make a HUGE difference.
And given that emotional literacy skills are a relatively new concept in education, it’s no wonder that
the same kinds of adults who grew up only to mirror the reactive behaviors they saw modeled by their parents can’t have benign conversations about the color of Starbucks coffee cups during the holidays
— let alone a non threatening discourse over how to manage equitable access to resources for things like healthcare, education, and basic infrastructural needs life food, housing, who gets access to nuclear codes, etc.
So let’s do a little bit of an exercise for a moment:
How are you feeling right now?
Take a little moment to think about it for a moment.
When was the last time you felt that particular emotion?
Is it a feeling you experience often?
What was your earliest memory of that emotion?
Feel free to reflect on those questions a little bit here (the responses are anonymous):
Full Disclosure: It may come as no surprise, but I added that Starbucks piece to gauge whether it triggered a reaction…
But more importantly:
What did you notice about this exercise?
Tell us about your experience in the comments section below: